Transforming Roadblocks

“Identify your problems but give your power and energy to solutions“— Anthony Robbins

Roadblocks, in their purest form, are obstacles.  They’re designed to stop you, or at least slow you down.  They’re frustrating, maddening and annoying.  They are also the biggest, most divine-sent blessings you may ever receive.  Roadblocks may come in a variety of forms: physical (an illness, disease or physical limitation); mental (a creative block or emotional issue that you must work through first); or spiritual (you feel a nudge from your inner guidance and need to take the time to get silent and listen to the wisdom provided).

As complex as a strand of DNA, Roadblocks involve your entire being-Mind, Body and Spirit.  Your conscious and subconscious minds play a big role, as does your spirituality, physical health and emotional state of mind.  The wonderful, saving grace of a Roadblock is that they’re yours.  The Universe specifically designed them for you and your journey.  If you ignore them, they will get bigger and uglier, and you’ll get stuck.  Claim them and work through them, and they become speed bumps-a slight dip in the road that you’re easily able to drive over.  Overcome them and you’ll grow in ways you’ve never imagined.  

The good news about Roadblocks is that they don’t last forever.  They are designed to disappear once you’ve learned the lesson or overcome the challenge presented.  It takes patience and practice, but if you don’t learn the lesson, you’ll continue to hit the same Roadblock over and over again, preventing you from living the life of your dreams.

Here is a list of some common Roadblocks. (You can have your own personal Roadblocks, but you can use this list as a guide.)

FEARS: I might get hurt. I might fail. What would others think?

LIMITING BELIEFS: I’m too stupid. I’m not thin enough.  I can’t do that. I don’t have the education.

REARVIEW MIRROR: I’ve tried that before and it didn’t work. Been there, done that. I’ve done that before and I got hurt.

EMERGENCY BRAKE: Overeating. Over cleaning. Changing the subject. Leaving the room.

EXCUSES: I don’t have the time. I don’t have the money. It’s too late. I’m too old.  It’s too soon.  

SELF-DOUBTS: I can’t do this.  I am not good enough. I am not good at _____.  I’m not smart enough.

DON’T WANTS: I don’t want to fail. I don’t want to argue. I don’t want to hurt anyone. I don’t like to be confrontational.

There are three effective ways to knock down Roadblocks: Evaluating the situation, Visualization and Working with the conscious and subconscious minds.  Below you will find some self-reflection questions to help you with the first one: Evaluating the situation.

First: Identify your Roadblock.  Draw it out if you have to. Take out a pen and paper and answer the following questions.  Does this involve my body, mind, spirit or all three? What do I want the outcome to be? If I were guaranteed not to fail, what would I be doing differently? If overcoming this Roadblock was my first priority, what would I do differently? What CAN I do to help myself feel better about this? Is there a pattern to this Roadblock? If so, what is the underlying message here? Am I focusing too much energy on my past? Do I need to forgive someone or myself? If I choose to overcome this Roadblock, what needs to change in my life?  What three things am I willing to change in order to move past this?

I wish you continued success on your journey!

About Dr. Kelley Taylor-Bentz

Dr. Kelley Taylor-Bentz has a diverse background in holistic healing, and has always known she would help people move forward with their lives. A successful chiropractor, Reiki Master and IET Master, Kelley focuses her energies on serving others, and has successfully applied the eMerge concept in her own life.

Do you have a question for Dr. Kelley on how you can eMerge and move forward on your journey? Are you experiencing any Roadblocks that prevent your progress?
Send your inquiries to Kelley@emergecoachingservices and watch for guidance in future columns. Visit www.emergecoachingservices.com for more information.