How many dates have you been on that have amounted to nothing?If you are dating today, probably lots! Does it seem like a waste of time and energy? For sure. And yet, you have to date to meet someone worth meeting, right? Even though you are enjoying the freedom and fun of single life and are not necessarily in a rush to find a long term partner, you still want to date quality people and have a satisfying love life.
Enter Spiritual Dating – the solution for busy women! Spiritual Dating is for you if you are looking for a new paradigm in dating and you want to create more self love in your life. Cause that is the key to it: self love.
In this case, spiritual doesn’t mean religious. It means conscious, mindful. Maybe you like yoga, helping preserve the environment, and you are self-aware. You probably like to explore different forms of spirituality like Chinese medicine and the tao, Ayurveda and hindi culture, or Unity Churches.
To be a spiritual dater four things must be in place.
1) Cultivate Self Love
Self love is the key to a satisfying love life! Strengthen yourself to attract the best dates and have the most fun! Choose you! It is always all about you – even when it is about your dating life. Everything improves when you deal self love into the game. Your life grows more meaningful when you love yourself and that includes your love life.
By loving yourself you take the need out of dating. Instead, you are happy and fulfilled on your own. And a great date or relationship is just the icing on the cake. With a healthy level of self love you guarantee your own overall happiness – dates or no. That same self love transforms you into a compelling and alluring prospective date. In the beginning of dating and relationships an air of self reliance and a bit of mystery makes you super interesting. Guys love when you have your own life and are happy, especially emotionally healthy guys. Your presence enhances their fulfilling life and vice versa and then you have a healthy relationship.
2) You Are Sacred
You can create a happy, healthy life by remembering that you are sacred. Sacred means precious, special, a treasure of true beauty – that’s you! If you consider yourself sacred, you know you can trust yourself. You know that you are going to make great decisions that honor you. In that way, you can feel emotionally safe. You can create that for yourself.
3) See Other’s Beauty
You must consider your dates to be sacred. If you can’t see your date as sacred, then they aren’t the right person for you. You can create a pleasurable, loving relationship by remembering your partner is sacred and not settling for a partner who doesn’t see your sacredness. Sacredness is the key!
4) Date Conscious People
Finally, your dates must see themselves and you as sacred. You can usually figure this out by date number three. Be observant and notice how your date talks about himself Does he engage in lots of negative self-talk? If so, he doesn’t see himself as sacred.
How does he treat you on the date? Does he open doors? Does he really listen and is he fully present? Does he treat you with complete respect? Those are starting points to determine if he sees you and himself as sacred. Listen to your intuition. You will be able to sense the vibe pretty easily and quickly.
If your date does not clearly see you as sacred, move on. Choose a fun night out with friends instead or go to an art opening or yoga workshop. Cherish your sacredness and hold out for that in any potential relationships. The fact is, you are a treasure and being single is fun and free and infinitely more attractive than being coupled with the wrong guy. Make choices that support how wonderful you are. And if you do not believe that you are wonderful, fake it till you make it. Because in truth, you are. Just by being alive.
Learn how to feel sacred. It is a level of internal self-acceptance that creates true feelings of emotional safety. This is crucial if you are going to be ready for an emotionally mature partnership with your soul mate.
Spiritual Dating is your answer to how to feel satisfied and enthusiastic about dating. Date on YOUR terms. Don’t settle for less than the sacred, emotionally safe love life you deserve!
Once you have cultivated self-love and recognized your sacredness then you can put a bit of time into dating because you are ready and in a space to get better results. Choose to take dating slowly at first until you figure out if the guy is right for you. As a busy woman, you can ask yourself if a potential date sees himself as sacred? No? Lots of negative self-talk and self-destructive behaviors? If you’re a spiritual dater, skip it. Your time is precious!
Then you can ask yourself if he sees you as sacred. Notice his behavior toward you. Does he stare at your chest when you are talking? Does he engage emotionally in an authentic and kind way that feels healthy and right to you? Or better yet ask him! Explain the concept of spiritual dating simply and ask him if he sees you and and himself as sacred. If he can’t hang with the sacredness, you can save time and energy by waiting for a better quality guy.
When you find a guy who fits these criteria, start spiritually dating! Really get to know each other. Give yourselves some time to connect before jumping into the land of intimacy and hormones. Those heady lust chemicals can make an okay guy seem like a sensitive Adonis! Keep a clear head and look at your compatibility. At the same time feel if you have fun together, if you click, if there is an exciting sexual and sensual chemistry brewing. Suss out his plans for his future and compare it to yours. Do you fit well together? Choose to be very self-aware and be mindful of the dates you go on. Create a brand new paradigm in your own love life! You can do it!
