I experienced a dream last night where I was swimming in the ocean with my family. We were facing enormous waves, but enjoying the adventure because of the waves not despite them. I realized that while guidance to another on how to navigate the chaos of each crest was possible, it was ultimately up to each individual to chart her own path through the breaking waves. I felt in my deepest space the full responsibility that was mine to remain ever-present and available to each powerful wave. I intuitively chose to dive deeply under the crashing whitecaps rather than attempt to push through the surface. In doing so, I calmly glided in silence under the turbulent motion and felt barely a ripple on my back. In between each wave, I rose to the surface of the ocean and took a deep conscious breath of gratitude and exhilaration for the experience. As the inevitability of another massive wave struck, feeling confident, empowered, appreciative, safe, exuberant, joyous, and invincible, I once again dove deeply under the wave and experienced gliding gracefully through the challenge. The initial fear of the waves readily turned into a deep faith in myself to embrace the opportunity to feel and ultimately own my true power. Read More
Forgiveness- It’s Never Too Late
When I heard of my step-father’s death, I immediately knew it was time to forgive. A chapter was now over. I wanted to move forward feeling free from the pain we caused each other. I arranged with the funeral director to see his body before the official services began. I did this to honor and protect myself from family or acquaintances that did not want to or could not understand the circumstances of my experience with him. Read More
What to Do if You’ve Outgrown a Friend or Loved One
What do you do when you seem to have outgrown some of the people in your life? Read More
Nurturing Your Child through Life’s Disasters
As we all watch the disasters and turmoil that are engulfing many areas of the world, it’s easy to get pulled into the fear and sadness. It’s a balance staying informed while also staying grounded — but in staying present in love and through our choices we are able to help heal the earth and the people. Read More
Got Friends?
My mother told me I was lucky if I could count all my real friends on one hand! Read More
Which Picture Do You See?
Once in a while, I’ll make the mistake of getting caught up in watching the national news—which is, in my opinion, not always a good way to begin the day. Although I find ways to stay informed about world events, rarely do I tune in to the glorified dismay broadcast by the media. In order to maintain a positive outlook and continue to deliver my lectures with enthusiasm, I find it best to stick to the weather and how the Red Sox did the night before (although if they lose to the Yankees, that can actually dampen my mood for a day). Read More
Full Spectrum Emotion
I’ll have one fabulous relationship; hold the full spectrum of unpleasant human emotion please!” Read More
Connecting With Others
All too often, we live our lives in a state of isolation, keeping others out in an effort to protect ourselves from losing our identity and a sense of control. Although we crave intimacy, connectedness and the love of others, we disconnect if the threat of becoming overwhelmed by it becomes too real and frightening. Read More
Love Your Goblin: How to Get Back in the Driver’s Seat of Your Relationships
Who is in the driver’s seat of your love life and relationships? Your higher self or your fears? Read More
Transforming the Energy of Relationship
Couples fight—sometimes fairly and sometimes, like a recent one between my spouse and I, not at all. We pushed blame back and forth like a hot potato. Neither of us seemed willing to drop it, nor take possession of it. When couples can’t rise from the depths of nasty disagreements to arrive on common (or at least neutral) ground, dangerous paths may lie ahead. How can couples, while remaining conscious of their needs as individuals, keep the energy of their relationship in the light of love and out of the darkness of fear and blaming? Read More