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It’s Your Life: Do You Rent or Own?

It’s Your Life: Do You Rent or Own? by Marianne MacKenzie | #AspireMag

Through the past many years of working with people it has become very easy for me to identify those that will be challenged in nearly every area of their life simply because they haven’t realized they have made a choice about living life as a renter rather than an owner.

I’ve rented and I’ve owned in life and there is a BIG difference.  One is without full and absolute responsibility and one is realizing once you sign on the dotted line it is your responsibility to maintain it, develop it, fix it, paint it, clean it, renovate it, replace broken bits, pay for it and when are finished it is you who gets to sell it.

Life works the same way.  YOUR life is what I’m specifically talking about.

Yes, each one of us have made this choice whether consciously or unconsciously to be a renter or an owner of our life.  We demonstrate our choice with each decision we make and with each action we take.  Don’t believe me?  Well, it looks like this.

A RENTER . . .

  • puts off taking care of their health until something breaks down so badly they can’t function properly
  • thinks they can eat whatever they want because the long term effect isn’t a care to a renter.
  • Avoids the critical conversations with people that mean the most to them again putting off the discomfort of the moment for a long term gain.
  • Believes they “are who they are” and nothing can really change – they tolerate.
  • Feels out of control really getting or having what they truly desire . . . they will just settle for what is available.
  • Believes you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit.
  • Puts up with less than superior results.
  • Doesn’t challenge the status quo or themselves for that matter.
  • Settles for a job instead of creating work they are passionate about.
  • Believes relationships are just one big compromise and yes it isn’t great but it’s better than the alternative . . . nothing or nobody.
  • Isn’t actively creating and engaged in making a difference in their own life, their families or their communities.
  • Goes through the motions each day . . . “another day another dollar” is their slogan
  • Believes they have to “do it” because nobody else will – not because it delights them or honors them.
  • Believes their desires are just dreams and they stopped dreaming years ago
  • Often wonders why they even try . . . it just works out the same every time anyway.
  • Blames others because the emotion of taking responsibility is too painful.
  • Feels failing is too scary . . . what will others think?
  • Often uses the words BUT and OR
  • Often feels life is happening TO them . . . a bit victimized by it all (by the way don’t even think of getting them to admit this one out loud)
  • Has a very difficult time owning their own shit. Blame is the name of the game.
  • Often addicted to stress and feels it is out of their control
  • Doesn’t trust the process of life
  • Often lies to themselves or commits to things they never follow through on.
  • Plays it safe.
  • Spends much of their time doing things to please others
  • Takes much of life personal . . . getting offended and hurt often

Whereas an OWNER approaches life with a different mindset. 

AN OWNER . . .

  • Knows their body is the vehicle through which they enjoy life . . . they treat it like a beautiful machine.
  • Believes they can get what they desire and they stretch their desires bigger and bigger
  • Knows that life is happening FOR them . . . not to them.
  • Understands that their dreams are their birthright.
  • Plays big because they know it is their game
  • Takes responsibility even if they can’t always see how it is totally theirs – they know deep down somehow it is.
  • Understands that stress is a choice and knows how to correct a stressful situation.
  • Delights in problem solving and knows there is always a choice.
  • Knows that being offended is a choice.
  • Takes risks that are in alignment with their dreams and desires – regardless of failure lurking just around the corner
  • Loves to do things that bring them pleasure
  • Looks for opportunities to see their own bullshit so they can transform it into lessons learned
  • Knows they don’t have to do it all and honors the areas of their expertise, focusing their efforts there and employing the expertise of others.
  • Seeks growth opportunities – knows they can change and desires to grow
  • Trusts the process of life
  • Is brutally honest with themselves and seeks relationships with others who will be honest with them too.
  • Tells the truth even when lying would be easier on everyone involved.
  • Delights in the lessons learned from failing . . . even though they love to win
  • Doesn’t take others choices or behaviors personally
  • Believes in pleasing themselves and being in alignment with their own integrity.
  • Knows how to change their state-of-being to move from low to high feelings
  • Isn’t afraid to love and love big!
  • Seeks joyful experiences
  • Is passionate about their life
  • Takes responsibility with what they bring or give to others.
  • Thinks in AND phrases . . . this AND that.
  • Knows that each day is just a new opportunity to experience an even better version of themself.

Being able to see some of the differences in renting and owning will give you the opportunity to assess yourself and where you are currently in your life.  Remember it is only a temporary situation.  Ownership is a spectrum moving toward greater and greater responsibility as an owner of your own life.

Use these identifiers above to decide what you aren’t doing that you like to include in your life experience.  Keeping a tab on your progress will help you see the progress you are making toward taking even more engaged responsibility in your own choices.  Remember the journey of life is to move you closer to the best-version-of-yourself. I’m right here beside you on this journey . . . learning as I go too.

Next time you have a choice to be a renter or owner I encourage you to take a pause and just imagine how much more empowering it feels to be an owner.

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About the author 

Marianne MacKenzie

Marianne MacKenzie is a sought-after life and business coach who supports business women in living a Radically Engaged LifeTM. She is passionate, with a capital “P”, about supporting you as you step into your power as a Radically Engaged Woman to live and work with deeper meaning and purpose, develop a new mindset that supports your desires and create practices and tools to sustain your new lifestyle so you can play even bigger in business and life. Through Marianne's powerful Radically Engaged LivingTM personal and group coaching programs, high-impact events, and corporate and virtual speaking appearances, clients experience what it feels like to shift from living on autopilot to living a Radically Engaged Life. Claim your free Live YOUR Radically Engaged Life” E-Book & Audio at www.MarianneMacKenzie.com

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