In my new column, Doing Business Like A Goddess, I’ll share key concepts that every feminine conscious entrepreneur must know in order to succeed in today’s new business landscape, plus how to create extraordinary income and impact while honoring that you are exactly who the world’s been waiting for.
And I’d like to start by sharing the one thing you must do FIRST to create the success that you deeply desire.
I’m often asked by the women I mentor, “Elizabeth, how is it that you built a multi-6-figure business so quickly?”
Yes, I have the skills – marketing, sales, coaching, copywriting, and more – that go into making a business successful. But the real answer is that I gave myself permission to be successful.
Now you might be thinking, “Easier said than done, Elizabeth,” especially if you wrestle with doubts, fears and feeling like you’re not good enough. (Believe me, I know EXACTLY what that’s like!)
There is a part of us that longs for approval and begs for permission. As you’ve probably discovered, you can give time to that part ‘til you’re dying day… and still it’ll never be satisfied.
At some point you have to just say, “This is who I am. This is what I’m going to do. Starting… now.”
“The difference between bliss and mediocrityis giving yourself permission.”
Once I made the commitment to go for what I really wanted in business, no matter how much “stuff” I had to move… everything became easier. I discovered that there is actually a method to giving yourself permission. And I share that here with you today…
The Permission Method
Step 1: Recognize that all the “yeah-but’s” aren’t really your own.
As human beings, we can’t help but “pick up stuff” from the people in our environment, especially as children. Then the beliefs that are handed to us when we’re young end up running the show for years – rearing their heads as doubts, fears, and feelings of inadequacy every time we try to take a step forward.
Most people will never realize this is happening, let alone shift it. But as entrepreneurs, moving through fear is not an option – it’s a requirement.
Here’s a simple way to get started. The next time you feel doubt, fear or an inkling of “I can’t,” stop and examine the idea from a place of curiosity. Is it truly yours? Probably not. You can safely release it or give it back to whoever it came from.
Step 2: Surround yourself with support
One of the most vulnerable stories I share with my circle is that of my husband Leland calling me forward. At a time when I was completely on my knees, he was the one person who said, “I will not stand for you holding yourself as anything less than the powerful woman you truly are.” He could see my brilliance when I couldn’t see it for myself.
Without that reflection, I can honestly say that I’d probably still be in the same place. And that’s why it’s SO important that you surround yourself with people who will SEE you.
Most women don’t have people in their day to day lives who truly see them and hold them accountable to their greatness. But I promise you, there are people out there who WILL. It’s your responsibility to find them, even when it means investing in yourself to do it.
Step 3: Create impeccable boundaries.
The flipside of receiving support is boundaries. Surrounding yourself with amazing people also means limiting your exposure to negative, dream-stealing people and ideas.
No, this doesn’t mean you have to give up all of your friends – in fact, your growth can be a true gift to those you care about. You can have compassion for those who are hurting, as negative people truly are. But you must take back your power by setting clear boundaries with the people who drag you down. (This also goes for what media you allow into your field. Turning off the television is a great first step!)
Step 4: Put yourself in the game.
When the clutter of doubt, fear, and negativity is gone, what do you get to say YES to?
Hire the mentor. Go to the event. Reach out to that potential partner. Throw the “rules” out the window and be yourself. Say what you really mean without worrying what others will think. When you’re feeling shaky, reach out to your support system.
Saying YES to your dream consistently is a practice, one that creates incredible momentum. Small “yeses” count – celebrate them all!
Step 5: Allow for new money truths.
Imagine what the world would be like if all the spiritual people in the world truly gave themselves permission to receive money… and what amazing things we could do with it….
Try on these new belief systems and then make them your own by acting from that place… even if it feels “fake” or uncomfortable at first.
1. “Making great money is part of my spiritual path.” It took me a little while to wrap my head around this one at first, but through experience, I fully began to understand its power.
Here’s the deal: in business, the money you make is a direct reflection of the value you provide to others. If helping lots of people through your business is a part of your spiritual path (and for most of us Divine Feminine business leaders, it is), it’s impossible to be fully activated, expressed and living that path and NOT make great money.
2. “I empower others by giving them the choice to invest in my services.” Many women believe that they’re being generous or caring when they give away too much of their time, or when they give service away for free. But because people only value what they invest in, giving yourself away actually robs your clients of their choice to get the powerful transformation they want.
The act of investing will cause your client to step up into a more powerful, confident sense of themselves… and by not discounting, you stand in your power as well.
And remember, when you give yourself permission to experience an abundance of money flowing through your life while living true to your purpose and calling – you give others permission to experience the same!
When you start applying The Permission Method you’ll discover your energy shifting from a place of uncertainty, confusion or fear to a place of personal power – the best energy state from which to create and grow your business.
Whatever you want to create this year – whether it’s to double or triple your business, cut the time you work in half, treat yourself to a 2-week vacation, share the stage with big players, land your book deal – it is totally possible for you…. when you give yourself permission!
Be sure to check out the next issue where I’ll be sharing a behind the scenes peek into my journey from struggle (read: broke!) to the divine intervention that led me to where I am today, leader of a high 6-figure company that teaches women to use the path of spiritual entrepreneurship to create their lives exactly as they wish to live it – on their terms. I’ll *see* you then!