My husband Paul and I recently celebrated our 20th anniversary of being together. When I see the relationship that we have today, it’s hard to believe that 16 years ago, he was walking out the door. We created this relationship, it didn’t start out this way. And we can show you how to create yours too!
Our mission is to empower everyone with the Relationship Education that no one ever taught you. Empowered with the tools that work in real-life, you can transform your relationships and live your life by design, instead of staying stuck in the life you have ended up in by default!
• Your relationship is passionless and you want the spark back…
• Your relationship is hanging by a thread and you need a last-ditch effort…
• You have a great relationship but you want it to be even better….
• You are separated or divorcing and need to co-parent better, or…
• You are not currently in a relationship but you want to be
Using our proven 8 step Relationship Transformation System® thousands of people around the world have transformed their relationships to create their unshakable love and unleashed passion!
And it only takes ONE partner to create the results. You do NOT need your partner to participate in this process in order for you to get the results you want in your relationship! It’s Relationship Development, personal development for your relationships!
Over the course of the coming year, I’m going to take you on a deeper dive of all eight steps of our Relationship Transformation System; diving into one or two steps in each of my columns for Aspire Magazine.
In today’s column, let’s begin with an overview of ALL eight steps! This way, you know what’s coming…AND you can get started on implementing these right away!
Step One: Seeing
“You can’t hit a target you can’t see!” – Zig Ziglar
Whose relationship are you in anyway? Most of us end up in a relationship by default! Pleasing and contorting our way to becoming what we think others want us to be to be happy.
It’s time to create your relationship by design! What is the relationship that makes YOUR heart sing?
Getting crystal clear on what you DO want will empower you to use the tools and strategies ahead to start moving towards it.
Step Two: Shifting
“One thing I know for sure…until you have a shift in your perspective and how you see the world…nothing can change for you!” – Your Truly
Giving yourself a perspective shift is kinda impossible! It’s not easy to see things through someone else’s lenses without some outside “perspective”!
When we get to this step, I will GIVE you a perspective shift experience, so that you can catapult forward in your Relationship Transformation journey!
It’s time to truly see masculine, feminine, relationships and human behavior in a way you never had….so you can transform and create new results!
Step Three: Strategies
Learn the tools and strategies that really work, to trigger the responses that you most want from the people in your world!
This is where I lift the curtain so you can SEE the ways you have unknowingly triggered others, and give you the tools and strategies to shift it all and create the results you really want!
Your partner is NOT like you…..and they are not supposed to be like you! This is one of the most difficult challenges and yet, it’s your greatest opportunity for growth!
You must understand those differences. Then you can begin to appreciate the differences in your partner. And ultimately you really cherish the differences in your partner and see the gift that those differences bring to you, your family and your relationship.
Step Four: Synergy
How amazing would it be if you had a rock-solid alignment with your partner…where nothing and nobody can come between you!?
You can absolutely have that….you must CREATE it!
You can implement a newfound synergy to your relationship, so that you act as a team and STOP keeping score.
50/50 relationships do NOT work! To create a rock solid alignment where nothing and nobody can come between you, you must go ALL IN! That means 100/100!
It’s not that some people just “have this” and others don’t. You must create it! Creating this kind of indivisible alignment requires ACTION. It’s about aligning with your partner every step of the way to face the world together. And that’s not easy!
In an upcoming column, I will teach you the four simple steps that you can begin using right away that will catapult the alignment and synergy you have with your partner!
Step Five: Start Anew
You simply cannot have a rock-solid alignment or unleashed passion if there is unforgiveness creating distance between you and your partner. Even if the one you need to forgive the most is yourself.
Start anew by wiping the slate clean-entirely. Forgive and forget past hurts and betrayals and give yourself permission to start from here.
While it may be hard to believe, everything can be forgiven. Yes, everything. What keeps most people stuck is not knowing what forgiveness really is.
“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different than it actually was.” – Oprah
Using our unique 5 step forgiveness process we have helped thousands of people around the world release from things that have held them back for years or decades. You deserve this freedom too!
Step Six: Sparks!
This is the ONE area where most people today are STUCK…and it’s painful!
Women are stuck operating from their masculine (pushing, driving, providing, protecting, controlling, and making all the decisions).
Men are disconnected from their masculine and operating from the feminine (gentle, disconnected, overly-nurturing, lacking drive, indecisive, pleasing).
…it is an epidemic.
The good news is…it does NOT have to be this way!
Not only is this flip flop of energies zapping the passion right out of your relationship…it’s exhausting you and chipping away at your soul!
And yet….this is one of the toughest dynamics to flip. And no one’s really teaching the HOW (until now)!
When feminine radiance combines with mature masculine presence, SPARKS fly and we can both come from our best and most authentic selves!
And when you realign with your authentic core energy, you will feel the power and surge come back!
You CAN reignite the spark of PASSION into your relationship! And we can show you how!
Step Seven: S-flirt
You better start taking your FUN more seriously, because the fate of your relationship may depend on it!
With the house, the kids, the work and all the busyness….dating, fun, flirting and playfulness go right out the window! And life just isn’t very FUN anymore!
The truth is, couples who continue to date, have fun together and can make each other laugh can navigate real life challenges more easily than those who are NOT having any fun and have lost their dating relationship.
Today, too many of us are stuck in over-responsibility.
Believe it or not, even with the kids, and the house and kicking butt in your work….you CAN still have playfulness, fun and flirting in your relationship!
And the energy of romance and flirting is the slippery slope into the sensuality that you desire.
Step Eight: Sensuality
Can you imagine a sensuality hotter than when you first started dating? Where you experience daily sensual energy with your partner.
It is absolutely possible! (I’m living proof!)
Many people come to me and want to START at Step Eight! They take a look at our 8 steps and say “Hey, why is sex all the way at the end? Can we skip to step 8?”
My reply is always the same. The steps are strategically designed in this order because “a sex problem is rarely a sex problem”. What do I mean by that?
The gateway to ravishing sex, for women, is VULNERABILITY.
This level of vulnerability would require you to feel a tremendous level of rock-solid support and protection from your man, so you can open and surrender. And most women are not there yet in their relationships.
That’s why I say “a sex problem is rarely a sex problem” because it is not found in the “sex” it’s found in the relationship (steps 1-7)!
In the coming issues of Aspire, I will take you on a deeper dive into each of the 8 transformational steps and give you a tool or strategy to implement to experience a shift in your relationships that day!
In the meantime, if you are ready for a deeper dive on all eight steps now, check out our Relationship Development 101 Program and get started today!
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