My heart, my gut, and my womb have guided me . . . when I was willing to listen. My teachers have told me the truth, especially when I did not want to see it. I have been blessed with simple needs, so my world is filled with abundance.
How can I find my fearless self? We can find our fearless selves by being true to our dreams and visions. Fear of failure is not a true fear, but it stops many women from being true to their dreams and from manifesting their visions. Fear of doing something, especially something new or risky, is really fear of failing. It hurts to fail and we want to avoid that pain. But that pain is not real; it is imagined, that is, it has not
How would you feel about yourself if you had never seen yourself in a mirror? The same or differently? How much time do you spend tending to how you look? If you added up all the hours of shaving, plucking, dyeing/bleaching, curling/straightening, creaming, masking, lining, shadowing, selecting, rouging, dieting, preening, painting, grooming, primping, fussing, trying on, accessorizing, and worrying – how many would that be? How would your life be different if you spent less time on your “looks” and more time looking within? What would happen if you lived from the inside out, instead of from the outside in?
How do you know if you are leading an authentic life? What is an authentic life?
Let’s work like a sculptor, taking away what isn’t part of what we wish to sculpt. We will get faster results by looking at the negative space – what we don’t want – than by trying to be positive. Instead of focusing on what we want – to be authentic – let’s look at what we don’t want: to be fake, contrived, unoriginal, unreal, a façade, a shell, a mask. And let us ask ourselves what motivates us to lie about who we really are and to hide our authentic self away.
Midlife and menopause are opportunities to change the course of our lives. The metamorphosis of menopause can be used a passage to power. Even after menopause, the changes it has wrought in our bodies act as gateways to reach into our most authentic selves, to touch our deepest feelings, and to reveal our finest aspirations.