What is the voice of inner wisdom? Can you hear it? Does it speak to you? Does it come to you in your dreams? Does it manifest through coincidence and synchronicity?
How would you feel about yourself if you had never seen yourself in a mirror? The same or differently? How much time do you spend tending to how you look? If you added up all the hours of shaving, plucking, dyeing/bleaching, curling/straightening, creaming, masking, lining, shadowing, selecting, rouging, dieting, preening, painting, grooming, primping, fussing, trying on, accessorizing, and worrying – how many would that be? How would your life be different if you spent less time on your “looks” and more time looking within? What would happen if you lived from the inside out, instead of from the outside in?
How do you know if you are leading an authentic life? What is an authentic life?
Let’s work like a sculptor, taking away what isn’t part of what we wish to sculpt. We will get faster results by looking at the negative space – what we don’t want – than by trying to be positive. Instead of focusing on what we want – to be authentic – let’s look at what we don’t want: to be fake, contrived, unoriginal, unreal, a façade, a shell, a mask. And let us ask ourselves what motivates us to lie about who we really are and to hide our authentic self away.
Midlife and menopause are opportunities to change the course of our lives. The metamorphosis of menopause can be used a passage to power. Even after menopause, the changes it has wrought in our bodies act as gateways to reach into our most authentic selves, to touch our deepest feelings, and to reveal our finest aspirations.
The soul is adventurous and wants new experiences. The body wants to find a warm, safe space and sit tight. There is no balance between these two different needs, only a dynamic disequilibrium, a flow, a tide that surges and ebbs and is never twice the same. The space between the enticing new thing and the comforting same-old, same-old is transition. And transition can be difficult.