Three Secrets to Re-Energize Your Relationship
By Joanie Winberg

Would you like to feel like you did when you were first dating?

Do you want more excitement, a deeper connection, or maybe even to really be listened to?

As a Relationship Coach, I have the honor of coaching couples and “singles again” across the country who want to either re-energize their relationship or find the “love of their life.”  Is this possible?  Are you familiar with the Universal Law of Attraction?  Maybe you have heard the expressions, “What you think about, you bring about” or “The more attention you give to something, the more attention it will give to you.”

In Wayne Dyer’s newest tape release “There is a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem” Wayne says:

“Every thing in the Universe is energy and energy does not come in good or bad, it comes in high or low, fast or slow. And the energy we live and breathe with and which surrounds us at all times is really in our control. There are certain principals that we can follow to bring ourselves to these higher faster energies. When we are vibrating on lower vibration energy it impacts our bodies, our environment, our families and ultimately our universe. As we become aware that our thoughts represent energy we can see how easy it is to shift those energies.”

3 Secrets on how to re-energize your relationship:

Secret #1
Let it go!
Are you holding onto any feelings of resentment, bitterness or disappointment towards your mate from previous years or situations? Ask yourself…are these thoughts serving me or helping me feel better about our relationship? Will thinking about this negativity over and over again change anything? If it is true that “what I think about, I bring about,” am I really attracting more of these negative feelings (low energy) and situations into my life as well as my relationship? To enjoy a closer relationship, be aware of your feelings, acknowledge them and most importantly…learn to let the feelings go! Just let them go!

Secret #2
Treasure each other’s gifts within
What are your gifts or “gold nuggets” with which you were born? What are your mate’s gold nuggets?  Over the years, we sometimes forget our unique gifts as well as those of our mates.  Instead of focusing on what you don’t like about each other, focus on how magnificent you both already are. As a suggestion, set a new precedent and start today by making a list of all your mate’s great qualities. Have your mate do the same for you. Examples: a beautiful smile, kindness, generosity, caring, intelligent…keep going.  Allow yourself to see the shining gold within each other. It’s already there! (Notice the feeling of your high energy).

Secret #3
Enjoy the little things!
We all have busy lives and we can relate to the feeling of living the” fast-paced get-stuff done” type of lifestyle.  How can we slow down and appreciate the limited time we have with our mate, and enjoy a relationship with ease, less stress and a lot more fun? To start, learn to laugh more, especially at yourself.  The #1 trait most appealing in others is laughter. Learn not to take life so seriously and lighten-up. Learn to live in the present moment. Living in the present is where all the “good stuff” will happen in your relationship. Yesterday’s worries are gone forever and tomorrow’s to-do list can wait. When enjoying the moment with each other, recognize your mate’s true beauty and appreciate them for being a part of your life. By focusing on what you love about your mate versus what “bugs” you, you will activate and attract more of the high energy of love, compassion and joy.

As a speaker, Relationship Coach, Human Behavior Consultant and a Certified Laughter Coach, Joanie Winberg provides motivational, fun-filled and educational IACET approved workshops, training seminars and keynote speaking events for your organization, business, or school. For more information, go to “Speaker on Call” at www.speakeroncall.com.  Also, to receive a “midweek Boost” from The Happy Wednesday Broadcast- a weekly inspirational quote with tips, go to www.happywednesday.com.