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5 Signs that You’re Settling for Less in Life

5 Signs that You’re Settling for Less in Life by Patricia Young | #AspireMag

My husband and I have someone close to us that is struggling in a relationship. I can see it so clearly, when you’re outside of the chaos, you can see that she’s settling for less than she deserves, and this is creating a ripple effect in so many areas of her life, including her kids.

This whole situation made me reflect and it’s true that sometimes we face difficulties in life that create big dilemmas. It could be relationships, a job, new opportunities, etc., but at the end of the day, even though we don’t always have control over all the events in our life, we always have the ultimate power – the power of choice.

Every choice we make matters and has consequences; it doesn’t matter how big or small it is. Deep in our heart, we know this, and that’s what creates the anxiety and fear around making new choices.  The problem is that when we don’t feel worthy enough, most of the times, we don’t think we deserve better, and we believe that we cannot have what we most desire, be it a better relationship, a better job, start a new business, etc., we end up settling for less.

If you think about it, settling for less than we deserve is also a choice, but we could conveniently hide behind the thought that we “had no choice”, and that ends up being the perfect excuse that will only lead us to feel powerless and like a victim. But our inner guidance knows the truth, and going against our core values leads to self-betrayal, which will create great pain.
 
The truth is that we’re not here to settle for less, we’re not here on the planet to shrink and fit in. When we settle and fit in, we’re making choices and living life based on other people’s expectations, what society expects us to do, and there is no way we will be able to live an authentic and joyful life if we keep “shoulding” ourselves and playing “safe”.
Here are 5 Signs That You’re Settling For Less In Life:
  1. You’re playing the blame game – Things happen and people can act in despicable ways sometimes, but don’t give your power away by putting the blame on others or circumstances. Remember, we are more powerful than we think and we always have a choice to change things around in life.
  2. Using “someday” as an escape – You delay taking action until after “this” happens or when “that” happens because you are afraid that you will fail, or you’re afraid of the ripple effect that your choices will create. Here’s the truth, the time will never be perfect. Waiting will only keep you in the same situation, feeling the pain of self-betrayal.
  3. You numb yourself  You probably fill the void by watching many hours of TV, shopping, drinking alcohol and/or eating a bit more than you should. There’s nothing wrong with watching a bit of TV and having a social drink to disconnect, but when the highlight of your day, consistently, is the wine you drink at night or the hours you spend watching mindless TV, looking at other people’s lives on Facebook, etc, you’re settling for less.
  4. You focus more on the time and energy – when you do something, you focus more on the time and energy invested than the joy, love and fulfilment that you gained.
  5. You feel jealous of other people – You see other people that have more fulfilling lives, better relationships, thriving businesses, etc.,  and you feel jealousy or resentment. Use those people as an inspiration and celebrate their success. If they can live more meaningful and joyful lives, so can you!

Fear can paralyze us, but the only way to stop settling in life is by following your inner guidance and making the conscious choice of taking action, even if it’s a baby step every day. Also, when making decisions, ask yourself this question: “What will I regret in the future?”, that way you’ll motivate yourself to take an inspired action that feels more authentic to you.

“So many of us choose our paths in life out of fear disguised as practicality”— Jim Carey

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About the author 

Patricia Young

Patricia Young is a Transformational Life Coach & Strategist, international best-selling author, the host of the popular Awakening to Life podcast, the founder of Inner Prosperity Academy, and the author of the book, Awakening to Life: Your Sacred Guide to Consciously Creating a Life of Purpose, Magic, and Miracles Awakening to Life: Your Sacred Guide to Creating a Life of Purpose, Magic, and Miracles (February 2018, Inspired Living Publishing). She is a frequent contributor to Aspire Magazine and a sought-after media and summit guest.

Patricia passionately supports sensitive and growth-oriented women in identifying and living their highest life vision. Her keen insight, nurturing energy, and proven strategies help women take action to bring this vision into reality so they can live the life they came here to live—both personally and professionally.

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